Neale Donald Walsch had CABG surgery on this very day 3 years ago.
I learned that from a Facebook friend who I recently connected with on a more personal level when I learned she created a curriculum based on NDW Conversation with God books.
“Nothing happens in the first hour”, the cardiac surgery Nurse practitioner told me yesterday.
Don went to ER about 6:30 for his 7:15am surgery. To have a triple coronary artery bypass graft. CABG x3.
It is now 8:06 am
It is now 8:10am
My oldest woke up and my youngest was on discord on the server so I saw she was awake and so I got to text with them and also my sister-in-law.
I choose a “daily mix 1” for my music this morning.
Music is my meditation.
The randomness of playing songs that I did not specifically chose is how the universe speaks to me, how God speaks to me, how my angels speak to me, how my loved ones speak to me, both those here on this earth and those beyond.
For some reason the internet is is frozen and my song won’t play and the messages I just sent to a few people are stuck in mid- stream
Maybe it is time for me to be in the quiet…
The quiet of a surgical waiting area… with 18 people in it.
I am still surprised how small this waiting area is for the size of the hospital.
My dad had back surgery at the other local major hospital and the waiting room felt more like an airport waiting area. Now that I say that out loud… I guess smaller can be better. I just wish they had a soft reclining chair for me to sit in.
I can leave the waiting area. They have my phone number and will call me with updates. I kind of hope that i get an update from a person from the surgical team and not just the receptionist. They do that on Grey’s Anatomy.
Code blue on coronary care unit, 6th floor.
That is where Don was 8 1/2 years ago. The CCU
He won’t need the CCU this time.
Now they are canceling the code blue.
Sending love and healing to the CCU and their family members.
I am now chatting with my 10 year old via text. Handling OCD and anxiety when mom and dad are not home is an added challenge but my child is rising to the occasion.
The waiting room gets busier and I will be talking more with my kids and family and friends.
I am empowered to write in the moment and this is one of those life changing moments.
The anesthesiologist told us that he will heal faster because he is young and that things should go very well and he is low risk for any complications from anesthesiology.
We found out Don’s family had no problems with anesthesia in their past. Genetic factors play a part in all of this.
For Don’s coronary arteries, genetics plays a HUGE part.
Never smoked, never overweight, rarely drinks,
Eats healthy…well he has improved his diet greatly over the years… he did have his fried apple pie and coke breakfast phase in his 20s. He didn’t meet me until he was 34 and so his diet improved at age 34.
Here we are.
It has been a long journey since May 4, 2011 when we first learned, the hard way, that he had heart disease.
it is 9:06 am. 1 hour ago, they told me surgery had started.
I guess 7- 8 was prep time. I am not sure what is considered the “start of surgery”
My playlist plays:
- Along Comes a Woman from Chicago 17….I love Peter Cetera
- John Denver..we both love John Denver
- Fleetwood Mac .. Monday Morning (today is Friday.. but Fleetwood Mac!)
And now…
- Longer by Dan Folgelberg
- I”ll Be Around by Carly Simon
Call me crazy, but I believe Don is speaking to me through songs.
I believe we can connect on a spiritual level while he is sedated, under general anesthesia…right now.
I heard him speak to me 8 years ago…in this very hospital, through song
Not sure about this one!
- Slip Slidin’ Away, Paul Simon.. Don’s sense of humor is what lets me know he is ok
We have been together for 25 years and our kids are growing up… the years are moving forward.
This waiting area needs an exercise room, with yoga mats.
I need to create that for all waiting areas.
Who want to sit in an arm chair for hours?
Maybe the orthopedic surgeons set this up, to have back surgery patients…just kidding
I did my stretches and yoga positions anyhow…
Sun salutation with my headphones on
As I swing my hips to the music and mouth all the words…
Harrison is heading to the house and will then be heading here.
It will be good to have my oldest, nearly 22 year old son with me for the rest of this time and for the post op parts. For when we see dad slowly wake from anesthesia.
Someone in scrubs comes in to talk to a a family and I get hopeful
“I want to break to free”
“God knows I want to break free”
“I have fallen in love.”
“I have fallen in love for the first time and this time it’s for real”
Don knows how much I love Queen.
Meet Don
Born October 5, 1958 in St. Louis, MO
Born to Regina and Harold Grothoff
The sixth child born in the family and the last born, the baby.
Don is 61 years old today as he undergoes his first surgery in his life.
Triple Coronary Artery Bypass Graft, CABG x3
Warning: graphic description ahead…
His chest is cracked open at his sternum
They have spread his ribs apart and…
And Lobo sings, “I’d Love You to Want Me”
I forgot about this song.
I love this song.
His blood is run through a heart lung machine
And they stop his heart….
…they induce cardiac arrest
My heart stops remembering when his heart stopped in our living room
Or went into abnormal fatal heart rhythm as it desperately tried to keep him alive..
“Do you want to dance” by Bette Miller
I have never heard this song before.
Don and I love to dance
I am eager to hear the next song and want to rush through them.
I resist
My oldest sends me a picture of our outside guard cat preventing him from parking in my parking space in our driveway.
“Everything I Own” by Bread
Don is dreaming of bread, full of gluten… real bread…and so am I
I tried to research CABG procedure because I am pretty sure he goes on a heart and lung machine… but wanted to be sure before I added that description
People get called up to speak with surgery team members, people wearing scrubs including scrub hats
Families get brought into “consultation rooms”
I sit, knowing it will be awhile.
I hear a surgeon speak to a woman in the waiting area.
Does that mean they only take people to consultation rooms if it’s bad news?
Or does it just mean that this surgeon didn’t take the time to bring her to a consult room.
Or maybe he had a simple procedure.
“Oklahoma Hills ” Argo Guthrie sings in my ear
Oklahoma?
OK
Does this mean Don is ok?
“Cowboy life”
That makes me laugh…
Don as a cowboy
“Love, soft as an easy chair. Love shared by two… I have found with you.”
Barbara Streisand?
Pretty song… yet, are they playing elevator music in the operating room?
Surely not…
Humor… going with humor again
People come and go in the waiting room.
I sit and wait.
I look around and see different people then when I arrived 3 hour ago.
Three hours? Is it really almost 10am ??
There are a few people who have been here almost as long as me.
Where is Harrison?
I need him here when they come to update me.
He hasn’t answered my texts since our discussion of our guard cat.
He is doing the dishwasher now and then will head here
I asked him, last night, to do that.
This morning, I don’t really care about the dishwasher getting unloaded…
But with our clogged sink… it helps …I guess.
Let the roads be free and clear for his safe travel here.
“Did you grab and apple and a fig bar from the pantry?” I ask him again.
I paid over $5 for water this morning. Buy one 20oz bottle and get the second for $1.
So I paid $4 for a bottle of water?
Oh my…
There is the Mediciad application that I really need to fill out for the kids.
As of today, my two kids have no health insurance because I “make too much money”
I got the letter from NC MEdicaid/ NC Health Choice one month before I lost nearly all of my hours at work. I went from 30-40 hours per week all summer to a week of 0 hours. My next paycheck will be about $500 for 2 weeks. I was called off for many days that I had signed up for and lost all my regular weekend hours. I have worked nearly every Saturday and Sunday for them for the past 1 1/2 years… It is not the company per se… it is healthcare, sick care…
She walked over to me this time, with a smile on her face!
I quickly removed my ear buds and she told me,
“They called to let you know that he is still in surgery, and everything is…..
……going as planned.
Phew….
Frantically, I text the groups of people who I am updating.
…First Harrison,
….And then Text messages to Don’s siblings
….and messenger message to my sibling and my parents
“Song song sung blue… sleeping on my pillow”.
I need to move around.
Been sitting too long
Hey everybody, lets do some yoga!
Time to get out of your chairs and move!
Sitting still is not good for you.
We could dance! I will pull up a play list…
Just heard the lyrics….
“Got my man on my mind…”. Carly Simon was singing the song Man on My Mind
More messages.
“Hello girl it’s been a while. Guess you’ll be glad to know that I have learned how to laugh and smile.”
Paul Davis, I Go Crazy
“When I look in your eyes, I still go crazy. My heart just can not hide that old feeling inside.”
I am eager to talk to Don to see if he remembers anything from his slumber time.
Harrison is on his way.
I continue to debate ending this post vs continuing until they are finished with surgery.
And the battery on my Bluetooth keyboard falls out again. I lost the back to the battery area in the hustle of the past 4 days.
Four days…
Life changed late Monday night… It was after midnight, Tuesday Oct 29, when I went up to bed and Don told me:
” I don’t feel right. I have pain in my chest and I am feeling tingling across my shoulders and down my arm.”
Authority Song
John Mellencamp
“Dying to me don’t sound like all that much fun”
Time to get up and move.. this is a dancing song
“Said, Oh no… no no no”
“I fight authority and authority always wins”
Now I am laughing more. Don resists western medicine and yet here he is.
New song
“Sometimes all I need is the air that I breathe…
And to love you…”
My butt is sore… I missed dancing with Mellencamp.
Move, Gina.