Nothing at All
I have the thought to get outside and exercise.
I have the thought to work on that crochet project I started months ago, or maybe years.
I have the thought to spend time with my husband.
I have the thought to work on a project with my 10 year old, something we had talked about, for a while.
I have the thought to eat healthier, reduce my sugar intake, drink more water…
Intention
Yes, there are times when I intend or even plan to work on one of these things.
And sometimes even the desire to be more engaged in my life.
Energy
Convincing myself to get out of bed in the morning
….to get to work
…to get to an appointment
Getting up from bed
Moving forward from distractions, Stuck playing a game on my phone,
So that I can:
Get in the shower
Drive to work
Begin my work day
Convince the patient why he needs to participate in therapy
Manage my time
Get all the patients seen
Finish the required paperwork
Focus and manage my time
Convince myself to see the “difficult patient”
Who is…
Very overweight
Requires 2 people to get out of bed
Doesn’t like therapy
Doesn’t care about getting better
Is too confused to care and locked in anger
Talks so much that I have to find a way to move forward with their actual participation in therapy
Repeats everything that has gone wrong, over and over
Figuring out how to listen to them, acknowledge their feelings, and help them move on… Long enough to participate for 45 minutes, or 65 or 72 minutes
Focus and finish my paperwork for the day in a timely fashion, whatever that is
Get the computer to connect to the internet
Find a computer
Find the therapist assistant who has been seeing the patient so I can write a progress note, a recertification, or discharge paperwork
Figure out what the patient’s discharge plan is so that I can include that in the paperwork
Gather my things, walk to my car and
Drive home
Gather my lunch bag, purse, phone to go into the house
Arrive home to a child wanting to tell you everything that happened or share their problems from the day, repeating them, repeating with more emotion, fighting with their sibling
Listening to my spouse…..
- Fill me in on the days happenings
- Talk about what needs to be done
- Ask me to put my things away
- Tell me what I need to do tomorrow
- Ask for help with making dinner
- Say his goodbyes as he heads out for an appointment
Gathering the energy to…
Get up from the couch in order to….
- Feed the dogs
- Walk the dogs
- Prepare dinner
- Get up from the couch after resting
- Find food for dinner
- Make dinner
- Clean off the counter
- Clear out the ants scattered around the counter full of crumbs & dishes from the day
- Talk to my child about eating, helping
Anticipating my spouse coming home
- Worried about the mess in the kitchen
- What I fed the children for dinner
- The lack of vegetables at dinner
- Seeing the look on his face when he sees me sitting on the couch
- Knowing I should have gotten more done
- Wondering why I didn’t get more done
- Beating myself up for not….
Getting myself ready for bed
Remembering to take my medication, my supplements that are supposed to help me
….deal with day to day life
Helping my children…
- Find a snack to eat
- Be motivated to get ready for bed
- Cope with their anxiety at bedtime
- Brushing their teeth
- Redirecting them from obsessive and intrusive thoughts
- Provide a calming environment for them to go to bed
- Apologize for loosing my cool
- Apologize for not listening or playing the game together, like we talked about
- Apologize for not helping them start their bedtime routine sooner…
Reviewing my day in my head and wondering why I did not get more done, be more productive at work, finish sooner at work, spend time with my children
Hearing my alarm go off and wishing I did not have to go to work.
Do you or your loved ones struggle with depression, anxiety, or bipolar depression?
I know sharing my story has helped me. We need to look at our stress before we can move on from it.
I used to think my struggles weren’t serious depression because after all, I managed to get basic things done. It took me a while to seek help for myself….and for my children.
When we are struggling to get through each day, it multiples the challenge of helping our children with their emotional stress, mental illness, behavioral issues.
My psychiatrist recently referred to my bipolar 2 as mild.
It doesn’t feel mild to me.
For many people, they go through their day like these tasks are nothing at all.