August 2011- Turing Points Update
I recently re-read my post from January of this year entitled: Turning Point, a new start for 2011.
It was powerful to read the message I wrote at the beginning of this year and ever so relevant to my life now, 7 months later. The end of my entry I quote part of a song from David Wilcox, taking my favorite lines.
And so I will start this post with those lyrics and my closing remarks in m post.
“Your compass is within you
You’re holding out for something real
How long the distance
Getting by and getting through
Your heart’s strong insistence, says nothing else will do
But it’s hard to breath inside some cheap disguise”
-David Wilcox, Turning Point
I make no resolutions or promises in this new year to do or refrain from certain things. Instead, I take the oath to continue on my journey of life and self discovery, aiming to be a better version of the person I strive to be. I accept my shortcomings and mistakes as part of my journey. I strive to focus on my strengths and tune into what I do want to see in my life to draw more of the same to my life. I aim to spend more time writing and thus working on myself which is key to helping anyone else in my life. I must first put on my own oxygen mask before I put on my child’s.
Every moment in my life is a turning point. I make a decision in every moment, a decision of who I now choose to be. My only goal is to be “the grandest version of the greatest vision ever I held about who I am”.*
Changes in my life….a brief overview
August 24, 2011
I moved here almost 19 years ago, after graduating college, started my first full-time job in my chosen profession, got married over 17 years ago, had my first child nearly 14 years ago, moved to this home over 10 years ago, had an early miscarriage over 10 1/2 years ago, had my second child 9 1/2 years ago, was able to stay home full-time when my husband sold his business and got full-time work, 4 years ago, he lost his job 3 years ago, had my second child 2 1/2 years ago, returned to work outside the home 1 1/2 years ago, started writing my mini books for the movement of change almost 1 year ago.
My daughter has had OCD for at least a year and a half. We have had our dog for almost 10 months. It has been almost 8 months since I hurt my back. It has been over 3 months since my husband had his heart attack.
All these experiences in my life have been turning points. They have been changes in my life that have had positive and negative impact upon my life. And with most if not all of these experiences, there has been an opportunity in each challenge and the decisions I made, further impacted my life from that moment on.
I will now relate my own experiences as they relate to the lyrics from this song.
“your compass is within you”
The answers are within me. I must tune into myself to see them. In order to help my child who has been experiencing OCD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, an anxiety disorder, I must first look at myself and be in tune with my own feelings, beliefs and my authentic voice. Sure I need to research and reach out to others to help her but just as important, I need to turn inward and use my own intuition and consciousness to know the best decisions to make and the path to follow to help her recovery.
“You’re holding out for something real”
I pause as I read this one. What first comes to mind is my writing. And really living the life as I choose to live it, working from home and doing what I love and earning a living from it, spending my time doing what matters most to me. Yet, as I write even that, I know there is something deeper to this. I am holding out. I haven’t realized my dream of earning a living doing what I love, writing, parenting, finding a path to earn income from my writing.
Ah-ha!
I was holding out, with my writing, and then I found the Message of Change program and dove in head first and immersed myself in the process for over a month writing a mini book to share a message of truth with the world. In fact, it was after I enrolled in that program August of 2010, that I finally started my blog here and begin sharing my writing with the world- in an open manner where others could read what I was writing. Up until that time, I had written many things but had not yet really shared my thoughts , my best writing, with others.
As I write this, I feel myself coming back on path again. I have just brought such clarity to myself and my writing. It is time to move forward after being stalled for to long- well, that is a judgement on myself, let me rephrase that- after a delay, to the process of writing my mini book or books. And I don’t really know what that will look like or how but I know that coming here each week to blog is foremost the best step I can take.
“How long the distance”
I am nearly 42, and will begin my 43rd year of life. Everything in my life has brought me to write here and now.
“Getting by and getting through”
Yes, many times in my life I have functioned in this state of getting through the day, getting past where I was from high school to having to work full-time when I wanted to be home full-time with my newborn child and surviving life after my husband had a heart attack. Lately, especially over the past month or two, as my husband has recovered more from his heart attack and has been able to return to the level of activity he had before May 4, 2011, I have found myself feeling like I was just” getting through life”. And it was this feeling of just going through the motions that brought me back to myself. I knew deep within that I did not want to continue to live in this method. I wanted to live my life more fully and intentionally and with more meaning.
“Your heart’s strong insistence, says nothing else will do”
When my husband suffered a massive heart attack and cardiac arrest, and lived, I knew more deeply than I have ever felt, that I needed to write through the experience. I knew I needed to write, I “had to”. Writing is more than putting words on paper for me, it is the way my soul breaths.
And that thought leads right into the next line:
“But it’s hard to breath inside some cheap disguise”
It is hard to breath, to live fully, when I am not being who I really am, when I am not being my authentic self and expressing authentic self. Parenting from my heart, living from love (not fear) and expressing my inner truth through writing that I share openly.
And I end with David Wilcox’s words again:
“you can live your life completely
that true path you’re hear to find
Or stay scared, leave your destiny behind
It’s right now, here’s the turning point in time”
“just one thing can kill this dream
To compromise your vision”
“we find our truth, or live some lie”
“It rides on this decision”
-David Wilcox, Turning Point