Five weeks ago I was sitting in a hospital room waiting on results.
Five weeks ago my concern was that they were going to send my husband home from the hospital with no answers.
I left the hospital that morning to take my youngest to a therapy appointment.
I did not know I would return to find out he had failed his stress test.
I did not know the critical care ambulance would be driving him to the main hospital.
To Presbyterian main where he spent 12 days recovering from his heart attack 8 years earlier.
I did not know he would undergo coronary artery bypass graft surgery, CABG,
Open heart surgery
On November 1,2019, my husband had open heart surgery
His heart was exposed
His heart was stopped, his lungs were deflated, he was intubated and put on a heart and lung machine while they replaced his clogged arteries
The arteries that supply blood to his heart so that the heart can beat
So the heart can beat and send blood to the lungs and to the body
So he can live
Genetics,
And stress
Stress
Stress can wreak havoc on the body
He does not look like a man with heart disease
He never has
He is tall and thin
Unlike his cardio thoracic surgeon who has a large gut
Ironic
His surgeon was wonderful and even personal
We are grateful for him
Yet, it has been hard for me to look at all the overweight people
To see obese people in the hospital waiting rooms, in the cafeteria
Not the people in the hospital beds, but the ones visiting
And wonder why my husband is the one with heart disease
It is what it is
The past month has been a whirlwind
Driving, waiting, wondering
Juggling responsibilities as a parent, as a wife, as an employee
Driving my family members to appointments and making sure the kids were fed
Being there at the hospital most hours of the day to hear what the doctors had to say
Accommodating the lack of schedule in the hospital
Managing my two prn jobs, where I work as needed
Canceling work hours and trying to find work hours
The game is continuous
The flexibility is my life line
The flexibility is a must for being the mom I choose to be
For being a homeschool parent
For putting my family first, making parenting my top priority
I used to say, if I could only get paid to be a parent
Now, I have that opportunity.
Don and I have spent hours developing our program for families
We have given presentations and spoken to groups of parents
We have been growing our business
To help families who have challenges, where anxiety resides in the home
For families with children with behavior issues
For families looking for a better way to help their children thrive
On October 1, when I lost nearly all of my regular hours at my primary job,
I declared to the universe that I was ready
I said, “I am all in”
I knew it was time to give 100% to growing our business
To my writing, growing my blogs and working toward that book I will write
To spending more time growing our business, speaking and finding clients
I need to continue working at my “jobs” as we grow our business
Yet, the stress of finding hours and dealing with the latest change in reimbursement for therapy services at skilled nursing rehabilitation facilities
The second change of its kind in the course of my 27 year career as an Occupational Therapist
I declared the stress of all of this, the job stress, behind me
I have bigger and better things growing and am working toward
No longer depending on that income to support my family
Live is so unpredictable
When I was a child, I used to find my life
Boring
Most children declare that sentence often,
“I’m bored.”
My life now is anything but boring
I joke about wishing I was bored
I am going within
I am going within to find the strength and fearlessness that I felt on October 1
When I declared to the universe, “I am all in”
Maybe Don undergoing urgent, but not emergent bypass surgery
Is what we needed to dive fully into our business
Now his heart can function better
Now his arteries are free and clear
Now we know he has at least 10 or 20 years of life…or more
Now we can live more freely
I have gotten wrapped back into the stress over the past several weeks
As I have poured time and energy into finding work hours
Finding hours to make up for missed hours
Finding work hours to meet our expenses, or at least not completing deplete our savings
The savings we had build while I worked 30-40 hours all summer
Today
Today, I declare to the universe once again
I am all in
I am ready to dive back into my chosen life
I am ready to stop the life of getting through the days
I am ready to begin to live with more intention
I am ready to live the life I choose
I am a writer
I am a parent
I am a wife and a partner to an amazingly strong and resilient man
I am a parenting coach, a behavior transformation specialist
I am a business owner, a co-owner of
Focused Healthy Family
Even amounts the chaos that life can bring,
Our vision and intentions for our family have focus and purpose
We might lose sight of our core values and beliefs from time to time
Yet, we have done the work and continue to do the work
To be the best parents we can be, to empower our children to be the best they can be
Our desire and our mission for our business is…
To help other families find and achieve greater harmony and balance in their own homes
To live with intention, connection, and respect
To collaborate with their children
To have coping strategies to deal with anxiety and other challenges
To find the life that works best them, so that each member of the family can be empowered to be fully who they are
Life will still be messy at times
We will make mistakes
Life is unpredictable
How we handle life is the key
We can learn to respond to life challenges
Instead of reacting to the challenges,
Instead of reacting to our children’s behavior
We can choose our words and our actions
We can choose a new way of parenting
And live a more empowered and healthy life with our children.