Recently, I decided to let go of my story of loss. I wrote out all of my losses over the past several years, all the big ones and decided I would let go of “my story” of loss. What does that mean? I don’t know but what comes to mind is Debbie Ford. And so I googled to jog my memory and found this wonderful interview with Debbie Ford.
I wrote all about the letting go of loss in another blog entitled, Letting Go of “My Story”…of loss.
Today, I would like to talk about the part of the interview that first caught my attention; getting unstuck in “trying”.
I was immediately drawn to read more of this part of the interview because I, too often, find myself saying that I am “trying” to do something. I have had ideas and even visions of what I would like to do with my writing and yet, find myself frequently getting stuck. Even though I was reading this interview to learn more about letting go of “my story”, I knew that what I was reading was extremely relevant.
At the above link, if you scroll to page 5, 3rd paragraph, the interviewer, McGee, speaks of something Ford once said, “Don’t say you’re ‘trying’. You’re either doing something or you’re not doing it.” and asks her “How do we get unstuck in “trying”?”
Debbie Ford answers: quoted from the text
I use the analogy in The Right Question of a car trip. If you just say, “I want to have a better business,” that’s like saying, “I want to go to the South.” Where in the South?
How much better do you want your business? You need to get really specific, and yes, you may have to modify your course. You need to start with a very, very strong vision, because then you can wake up every morning and say, “What do I need to do to get there?”
If you were going on a road trip, you wouldn’t look at your map once a week or once a month. You’d look at it every day. Say, “This is where I want to go.” Then, ask yourself, “What can I do today to get there?”
That is where we’ve got to go with people. Whether it’s a New Age retailer or an individual, we’ve got to inspire them to have clear and concise vision. And know you can change your vision. Maybe I say I’m going to New York, but all of a sudden I wind up in New Jersey and I love it. That’s okay-you can change your vision.
We need to be clear about it. We have that picture, and we hold it in. We have the intent to get there, and we’re taking those steps. We’re taking really good, strong steps. I don’t think the universe can guide us. I think our souls know.
The above information is taken from an article in the New Age Retailer from Jan/ FEb 2007. The author and editor in chief is Kathy McGee.
After reading that, I had the idea of creating a plan for my vision in the form of a map. Instead of listing out goals and objectives in outline style, I need to create a map of my vision. A map that I can write on and amend as my vision unfolds. Unlike, a travel map with clear highways to travel on your route, this map needs to be ongoing. I can write out my vision with as many descriptions and specifics including financial aspects and then, I can either work backwards and add in possible things I need to do to get to the final destination. Or, I can just start from today and list what I can do now to get to my destination.
My brain is busy with possibilities of how I can create this map. I do need to let my right brain, my creative side, take the lead. My left brain has already made the list, written goals, objectives and daily tasks, only to find myself not able to follow through in that format. I think I need to keep this visual and start with a vision collage of what I would like my life to be like. From that vision collage, I can then create my map. I believe I need to plan to do just that and stop thinking about it, because then I am once again, “trying”.
So, I will make a vision collage. This You Tube Video gives a good explanation on Vision Boards. I also found this blog that describes the idea well, How to Make a Vision Board. After I make my vision board, I will let you know where I went from there and how I am making my map. Maybe you might be interested in doing the same or something similar. I would love to hear about your vision collage, or road map to where you want to go. Please share, for the benefit of all.